How and when to support your libido and what affects it

Do not fear - Right from the start we have good news for you; The latest studies show that our libido has a tendency to grow with age rather than what many have thought to be the case. What exactly is the libido and what affects it? Everything that you have been too afraid to ask about your libido is answered here by a renowned Sexologist. 

The word libido encompasses anything from sexual feelings, experiences to thoughts. “These are sexual reactions that appear in the nether regions or the brain through sexual encounters and through other means. When we talk about libido, we often connect it with our genitals but in reality it has everything to do with our brains which is the most erogenous zone in the body.”- Explains Katerina Sparr. 

Different signals to the brain cause reactions in the body that we view as pleasant. When we enjoy getting touched the body releases a hormone called oxytocin and orgasm then acts as a sort of positive hormonal explosion. Thanks to the release of oxytocin and dopamine we are able to sleep better and feel more relaxed. Reaching orgasm also reliably alleviates stress. 

Why do we want sex less? 

So that we can get in the right state of mind to enjoy a sexual experience and excitement, we need to feel safe and comfortable. “The libido is a complex phenomenon. It’s easy when it works but a source of anxiety when it does not. Stress and fear are the worst that you can do to your feelings of wanting and excitement. Many medications and their side-effects, stress, sleeplessness, little kids, are all potential negative influences for your libido.”- Katerina Sparr explains. 

It is also important to know that the libido changes and evolves throughout your life. It’s absolutely normal and there is no reason to feel alarmed by it. This is caused by changes in hormone levels, life situation and other inner and outer circumstances. Teenagers are the most affected by hormonal changes. Unsurprisingly, people are most sexually active between the ages of 18-30, but the main factors that affect their libido are not hormones. People that fall into this age category are often single, they have not settled down, they do not have children and they have plenty of chances to explore their sexuality, identity, and overall get to know their world better. Parents of infants and small children are unsurprisingly the least sexually active. 

The older you are, the better the sex! 

These numbers, however, do not mean that after 30 you do not want sex anymore. Actually the opposite might be closer to the truth; “Various studies have come to different conclusions but you can say that with age, our libido has a tendency to increase not decrease like we have been led to think. There are no age barriers for libido; many older people are sexually active, however the definition of what is sex and how it is ‘practiced’ is more broad for this demography.”- Says Katerina Sparr. 

People 65 and older are perhaps more physically limited in certain aspects, however they do not have kids to take care of anymore, they are not plagued by sleepless nights, they have much more free time and do not have to be afraid of pregnancy. Typically they are also more confident about their body and they know what they want when it comes to sexual pleasure. 

Do I have a problem or is this normal? 

Plenty of our problems are cause just because we cannot help but compare ourselves to others or we have certain expectations about how other may have it. “Of course, if you are happy with your libido, then there is no problem. If you and your partner are perfectly happy with engaging in sex once a week, once a month, once a year … then why fix something that is not broken? There are people that identify as asexual as well and that is completely fine and normal. Even in a society that is extremely sexualized, it is absolutely fine not to have a libido.”- the sexologist clarifies. 

If, however, you are unhappy with your current ‘state’ then it is time to talk about it with a specialist like a psychologist, doctor or sexologist. “A lack of sexual passion is not the end of the world. It could be just a phase that your body is going through where sexual needs are not your life’s priority. Libido and sexual passion can be understood like waves which go up and down. That is completely normal and not a reason to panic.”- placates Katerina Sparr. 

You could try to help the situation right away by looking for the culprit behind your decreased libido. You get rid of the stressful factors in your life which can also help heal your overall lifestyle, like getting enough sleep, decreasing your alcohol consumption, a varied and balanced diet, exercise and avoid nicotine and other drugs. 

The path to desire 

Sadly, there is not yet a magic pink or blue pill that will miraculously press the button labeled libido and activate it. Although, some dietary supplements can really help; “There are supplements available that increase the blood-flow, which some women respond to positively; like L-arginine and magnesium. You must make changes in different aspects of your life.”- Katerina Sparr adds. 

You could spice up your night with the right ingredients which are regarded as aphrodisiacs. Although there is no scientific backing for their claims. Some popular aphrodisiacs include chocolate, strawberries or oyster. 

According to the sexologist; it is significantly more effective to look at the whole situation and explore it in depth; “The current state of your relationship and libido may be new but that does not have to mean ‘bad’, it’s simply different. In the beginning of a new relationship spontaneous desire is what’s most important, it strikes you like lightning out of nowhere and quickly affects your brain, body and genitals. The issue is that we have been taught that spontaneous desire is something that we need to work for. We need to learn about the other type of desire as well; reactive sexual desire, which activates when we start to give ourselves to intimacy. We wake up our libido and needs and they start to grow, although with a little outside help.” 

About your LIBIDO 

As we know, a pill cannot solve all your issues but, in combination with a healthy lifestyle and ‘about your LIBIDO’, with its unique combination of natural ingredients, it can be a helping hand on the path to understanding your sexual life. 

We know that L-arginine increases blood-flow to the pelvic region which can have a positive effect on your libido. 

Peruvian Maca is also well known for its effects on both men and women. It’s sometimes called ‘natural Viagra’. 

‘About your LIBIDO’ is composed of purely natural and traditional substances that are known to increase libido and when combined with a healthy balanced lifestyle added to long-term regular use, it can do miracles for your libido.